We are all broken. Damaged.
The damage can be the result of what was self-inflicted, life-inflicted, or others-inflicted.
But it makes you and me who we are.
It’s a key part of our story.
Barbara Bloom writes, “When the Japanese mend broken objects, they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold. They believe that when something’s suffered damage and has a history it becomes more beautiful.”
We can choose to live as victims. We can choose to live in anger, bitterness, self-pity, cynicism, blame. We can choose to fake it, put a smile on our face and put our best put-together self forward.
This is letting the damage control and define you. It’s filling your brokenness with wax, not gold.
Wax hides the brokenness to make the vessel look more put together than it is. To make it look, well, undamaged.
But wax weakens and melts.
Gold highlights the flaws, the damage, and and the broken places. But it makes the vessel stronger than it was. It makes the vessel unique to all others.
Our damaged places can make us stronger—with better perspective, deeper gratitude, and with a felt sense of the presence and healing of God.
Then to be vulnerable and transparent about those places brings beauty to others. It encourages, inspires, and renews their hope. It reminds them that we are all broken, and that they are not alone.
I once heard someone say that whatever frightens you most to share with the world is exactly what you should share. Because that’s what touches people’s souls.
Wax or Gold?
It’s your choice.
Don’t hide your scars. Don’t hide your damage.
Instead, share your story.
We want it.
Show us your gold.
We need it.